Private Relationship Reset Call.
Reclaim Your Emotional Authority.
Strengthen Your Relationships.
Stop Repeating the Same Patterns.
Have questions?
If you’re successful, capable, and self-aware but your relationships keep triggering doubt, overthinking, or emotional shutdown – this call is for you.
This is not a motivational chat.
It’s a strategic diagnostic conversation designed to uncover why certain patterns keep repeating in your relationships and what it would actually take to shift them.
This Call Is For You If:
You’ve done personal development, therapy, or coaching but something still hasn’t fully landed.
You notice patterns like:
- Over-giving or people-pleasing.
- Pulling away emotionally when things get intense.
- Losing clarity or self-trust in close relationships.
- Wanting connection but resenting the effort it takes.
- You’re tired of “understanding” the problem without experiencing real change.
- You value depth, honesty, and personal responsibility.
- You’re open to investing in yourself if the path forward is clear and aligned.
This Call Is Not For You If:
- You’re looking for quick tips or surface-level advice.
- You want someone to take sides or blame your partner.
- You’re not willing to look honestly at your own patterns.
- You’re not in a position to invest time, energy, or money into meaningful change.
(This clarity saves us both time.)
What We’ll Do In This Call
During this 20-minute private session, we will:
- Identify the core emotional pattern shaping your relationship dynamics.
- Clarify how your self-image and focus are influencing attraction, boundaries, and communication.
- Pinpoint what keeps you stuck even when you “know better”.
- Map out what a grounded, self-led version of you would look like in relationships.
- Determine whether working together over an 8-week private coaching process makes sense.
You’ll leave with clarity – whether we work together or not.
About Me
I’m Richard Van Der Spuy, a relationship and mindset coach with:
- 1,500+ hours of paid coaching experience.
- 200+ hours of professional training through Robbins-Madanes with a special focus on relationships.
- A background working with high-functioning professionals who struggle internally with self-worth, emotional confidence, and relational clarity.
I don’t teach techniques to “fix” your partner.
I help you step into the version of yourself that makes you feel great while making your partner feel great too.
About the 8-Week Private Coaching (if we proceed)
If it’s a strong fit, I’ll invite you into a focused 8-week private coaching process designed to:
- Rebuild internal authority and emotional self-trust.
- Shift relationship patterns at the identity level.
- Understand the forces that drive hurt & anger / happiness & wellbeing and know exactly what’s needed to flip the script.
- Navigate conflict as a way to deepen connection and understanding.
- Create relationships that feel grounded, mutual, and aligned.
Investment is $1600.
There is no obligation to continue beyond the call.
How to Prepare
Before booking, you’ll be asked a few short questions.
Answer honestly, your answers help me understand your situation before we speak.
If you’re ready to stop managing symptoms and start changing the structure underneath, you can book your call below.
(Limited availability each month. I work with a small number of clients at a time.)
What clients say
Recommendations
I am delighted to recommend Richard as an phenomenal Life & Career coach. His expertise and dedication have made a significant impact on both my personal and professional growth. Richard has an incredible ability to assess the underlying limiting beliefs that hold you back, redirect your focus to what is really true, and equip you with effective tactics and tools to tackle any challenge.
Thanks to his coaching, I have found ways to make even more meaningful contributions both at work and at home. I highly recommend Richard to anyone seeking a transformative coaching experience.
Palo Alto, California, United States
Richard has had a profound impact on my personal and professional life.
Through his work, I’ve gained a deeper, more meaningful understanding of my personality and how to leverage its idiosyncrasies to become better in a professional and personal setting. The tools he has helped me develop have made a huge difference in how I approach difficult situations and navigate uncertainty in my day-to-day life.
I highly recommend his work.
Mérida, Yucatán, Mexico
I had the privilege of working with Richard to overcome some limiting beliefs I had. His patience, kindness, and expertise were truly remarkable. Richard not only helped me conquer these obstacles but also skillfully aligned me with the priorities that are most important in my life. I am immensely grateful for his guidance and highly recommend him to anyone seeking personal growth and transformation.
Calgary, Alberta, Canada
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I first approached Richard with some personal crisis and since then he has become my go-to for all things for 2 reasons – one, he is straight as an arrow and directly sees through and addresses the root issue with empathy without deviating or hitting around the bushes; secondly, Richard does not make a call for you, helps you to make one – often times comforting you to pick the right thing you already know, but unwilling or scared to pursue. He helps you see the larger picture beyond our individual needs and perceptions. Richard also has an innate sense of how to make his clients feel empowered without judgement,and replete with empathy and care. Richard & I have worked together on multiple occassions and each time was a success. I cannot recommend Richard enough.
Dublin, County Dublin, Ireland
I discovered Richard’s coaching skills at the start of this year; unhappy with myself, feeling stuck in a rut in many ways and unmotivated – I decided to give coaching a go. I was quite apprehensive having not done anything like it before but Richard immediately put me at ease.
Following a few sessions I can honestly say Richard’s coaching has helped changed my life, and hugely exceeded my own expectations. I’m finding a level of calm confidence yet high motivation which is already proving beneficial for my health and my career. I would recommend his services to anyone.
Richmond Upon Thames, England, United Kingdom
You don’t have to wait until things fall apart to make a shift.
No pressure, no forcing anything, just a safe, honest space to explore what’s next.
You can begin now. Calmly. Steadily. On your own terms.
And you don’t have to walk that path alone.
Four foundations of an empowered life
Purpose
Come to see and understand what’s most important to you, and why, and choose the direction of your life accordingly.
Relationships
Discover how surprisingly simple it is to have a better relationship with most people while making it great with those closest to you.
Authenticity
Unlock your hidden potential by understanding who you are through the needs that are driving your behaviours.
Growth
Gain clarity on what stops you from moving in the direction you wish to go and learn how to break through those barriers.
While our challenges often seem complex and insurmountable, the foundation of most challenges are simple and can thus be transcended with relatively straightforward strategies and actions.
1:1 Coaching FAQ
How do coaching conversations take place?
I work one on one with my clients online via Google Meet.
What if I’m nervous or unsure if coaching is for me?
That’s normal. Many clients come to me uncertain at first. This initial call is free and no-obligation. It’s your chance to experience the process without pressure.
How is coaching with you different from therapy?
Therapy often focuses on healing the past. Coaching is about where you are now and the future you want to create. We’ll look at your mindset, values, and habits, and help you recalibrate your inner reality towards a more empowered and fulfilling life.
Is everything we discuss confidential?
The session is recorded with a transcript which you get to keep whether or not we work together and helps me to further improve and add value to my service.
This is always kept 100% confidential. Coaching only works when you can speak freely and trust that what you share stays private.
What kind of results can I expect?
Every client’s journey is unique, but common outcomes include:
- Greater clarity on what truly matters.
- Stronger confidence and self-worth.
- Healthier, more connected relationships.
- A renewed sense of energy and purpose.
What if I’ve tried other programs or self-help before and nothing worked?
That’s more common than you think. The difference here is personal, focused coaching tailored to your unique values and story not a one-size-fits-all procedure. My method uses frameworks that provide a solid foundation on which to master your relationships, and the journey is simple and flexible enough to meet you where you are.
How do I know if I’m ready?
If you feel even a small part of you saying, “there has to be more than this,” you’re ready to explore. You don’t need to have it all figured out before booking the call; that’s exactly what working with me is about.
What happens after the call?
If we both feel it’s a good fit, you can proceed to entering the program with me. If not, you’ll still leave the call with more clarity and perspective as you move forward + you’ll get to keep the recording.